I’ve heard the phrase bandied about once a while, heck I’ve even used it a few times myself. But is blood really thicker than water?
A few years back, I had the privilidge of attending a friend’s church wedding, and the marriage vows have stuck in my mind ever since. It is the “standard” marriage vows which goes something like;
… to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part.
Do the mere utterings of these words automagically make blood thicker than water? I think not. The strength of one’s relationship with another is determined by choice. Looking back to my old blog entries (which still exists till today as a sadistic reminder for myself of how I felt way then) I found this short article which I pulled off the net somewhere…
Choice or Chance
When we meet the right person to love, when we’re at the right place at the right time, that’s chance.
When you meet someone you’re attracted to, that’s not a choice. That’s chance.
Being caught up in a moment (and there are a lot of couples who get together because of this) is not a choice. That’s also a chance.
The difference is what happens afterwards.
When will you take that infatuation, that crush, that mind-blowing attraction to the next level?
That’s when all sanity goes back, you sit down and contemplate whether you want to make this into a concrete relationship or just a fling.
If you decide to love a person, even with his faults, that’s not a chance. That’s choice.
When you choose to be with a person, no matter what, that’s choice.
Even if you know there are many people out there who are more attractive, smarter, and richer than your mate, and yet, you decide to love your mate just the same, that’s choice.
Infatuation, crushes, and attraction come to us by chance.
But true love that lasts is truly a choice.
A choice that we make.
Regarding soulmates, there’s a beautiful movie quote that I believe is so true about this: “Fate brings you together, but it’s still up to you to make it happen.”
I believe that soulmates do exist, that there is truly someone made for you. But it’s still up to you to make the choice if you’re going to do something about it or not.
We may meet our soulmates by chance, but loving and staying with our soulmate is still a choice we have to make.
We came to the world not by finding someone perfect to love, BUT to learn how to love an imperfect person perfectly.
~Author Unknown~
I have made my choice. Have you?
